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Happy New Year, Friends!
I have a couple of questions for you.
First, raise your hand if you made a New Year’s Resolution.
Ok, now raise your hand if you’ve stuck to that resolution so far.
Now think about that resolution or goal or habit that you want to change and go back in your memory and count how many times you started and stopped that goal, at any time of year. Just a ballpark number is fine.
Now ask yourself, What stopped me from continuing? Why did I fall back into old habits and put that other one aside?
You may come up with some things like, I got sick, It was the holidays, My kid broke his leg, Work was tough at that time of year.
Or maybe you can’t think of any particular reason. It’s true that life happens and it can disrupt our lives, but even when that happens…
… you have to continue committing to yourself.
Why is it so hard to stick to something that’s good for us, this new thing, be it an exercise routine, staying sober, a better discipline in your business, such as setting aside a few hours to manage the book?
Why do we often flop?
Because your subconscious mind is the one in control.
It’s great to have a strong will and tell yourself Today’s the day! But if there are subconscious programs running that keep you defaulting into old, unhealthy behaviours (and there are), then you will not get on top of them until you get under them.
How do you get under them?
I’m sure you’ve heard of a few, but here are some reminders.
There are several techniques that you can do to reprogram your subconscious mind. One is meditation. I highly recommend reading Joe Dispenza’s book Becoming Supernatural.
In that book, Dr. Joe describes how he and his team have scientifically documented how meditation can alter someone’s brain. Many students later report some major shifts in their lives, such as overcoming disease.
Keep an Open Mind
Now, I’m sure you’ve heard this about meditation before, but if you’ve never meditated, just keep in mind that it is not just sitting as still as a statue and not thinking about anything at all. There can be a lot going on with meditation. I particularly like open-eye and moving meditations, such as is done in kundalini yoga. I find the slight movements or eye focus can help me stay focussed on the meditation task instead of going off into my thoughts in la-la land.
In his book, Dr. Joe also describes the method of several meditations. I once did two of these simultaneously, alternating days, for 40 days. Near the end of the 40 days, I had a dream in which some old, hidden emotional baggage came up and seemed to right itself, an issue I didn’t even realize I’d still been hanging onto.
Another simple technique you could try is self-hypnosis. There are many programs and audio online that you can find for free. Browse through them and see what feels right for you and try some out. Once you find one, though, be consistent with it!
Finally, you might want to check out Bruce Lipton’s work on reprogramming the subconscious mind. (Don’t get too bogged down in the big list of modalities he suggests, though!).
If you’d like to work with a coach to uncover your self-sabotaging patterns and get help reprogramming them into better habits and a better life, email me at fiona@fionaforhealth.com to book your Freedom From Self-Sabotage Coaching journey.
Not sure where you’re cutting yourself short?
Take the self-sabotage assessment to find out. Go to this link & scroll down a bit till you see Take the Test.
